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Mar 27, 2009

Forgive Yourself After Hurting Someone

At some point we will all hurt people around us. Whether accidental or intentional it is important that both parties move on and try to reach a reconciliation.

Remember that it is impossible to go through life without hurting another person's feelings just as it is impossible to go through life without being hurt by another person. Acknowledge what you did to hurt this other person, but do not dwell on the problem for too long. You have to let it go. Learn from the experience. Take positive steps about your behavior and try to understand other peoples points of view. Forgive yourself. Recognize that it is not their fault that you hurt them. Do not take your pain out on them.

Try to control your own emotions without suppressing yourself. An apology will be worth nothing to another person if it means nothing to you so don't apologize in an offhand manner. If you are uncomfortable approaching the person you hurt simply give it time. The awkwardness will fade eventually.

If you are constantly talking about this one person, other people will get very annoyed, so don't let this become the only thing that you have.If someone does not want to hear an apology, do not force it. Give them time they will come around eventually.