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Jan 22, 2009

Tolerate Other Guys Staring at Your Pretty Wife

I know every couple happened this to them. Do heads turn wherever your wife goes? If it's something that you don't feel it's worth trying to stop, here's how to make the best of it.

Resolve any trust or insecurity issues that might be at the root of your discomfort. If you trust your wife, and if other men are just looking (not actually hitting on her or bothering her), then there is nothing to feel uncomfortable about.
Realize that you cannot control most things in this world, particularly the actions of strangers. There is no law against looking.
Look at it from their perspective. It's human nature to look at beautiful things. That's probably one of the reasons you married her, so you've got to accept the consequences.

Tell your wife that you've noticed other guys looking at her and ask her what her feelings are about it. She'll likely be flattered and enjoy the attention, but if not, the two of you can discuss a plan of action if it continues to happen.
Be proud of it. Remind yourself that she chose to marry you because she loves you. The stares of other men are a compliment to her beauty, and should also make you realize how fortunate you are. If this woman is so good-looking that guys keep looking at her, and YOU'RE the one taking her home tonight, stand tall, look the other guys in the face, and smirk. Flaunt it.
Remember,she's probably not even paying attention. She's probably trying to stop one of the kids from pulling the other kid's hair. Also remember she married YOU. Not the creep staring at her.

If someone goes beyond staring, and starts harassing your wife or being rude, it becomes appropriate to say or do something.

Don't ever tell your wife what to wear. It may cause a situation you could've avoided and will regret