Sep 24, 2008
Never ever run back to them or call them all the time. You can just never let go of that special guy/girl that taught you how to love. When you guys break up, then it happens for a reason. Don't keep calling him/her and talking to them like nothing happened or try to make them love you again. It's not going to work out. It'll just make you seem weak and clingy.
Forgive and forget. Let things go and remain cool. Don't let your ex see you miserable without them, it'll just give them the satisfaction and an ego boast.
It's OK to cry at night. For the first few weeks, it's going to be a long and lonely journey. So it's OK to cry. Cry your heart out for the matter of fact. You are going to stop crying in the end because you'll get sick of it and realize that it's a temporary phase. Listen to sad love songs. It'll make you feel better and you'll realize that you can relate to them even more after a breakup.
Remain positive. Just because he/she broke up with you or don't want you back doesn't mean that you're "worthless". There are plenty of other people who want you and would be willing to treat you even better than your ex. Smile and laugh. Surround yourself with friends and people who care. Not only would you feel better and not so lame, your ex would notice how happy you are and maybe he'll regret rejecting you.
Lift your head up high and move on. Don't let one relationship drag you down even though it was the best one you ever had. There would be plenty more and it's his/her loss. You are too good for them anyways. Tell yourself that. Tell yourself that you need someone who would treat you right.
Don't try to fling or have special relationships with your ex. It never ends up right when you just go back into that cycle. Yes, "that" cycle. Where you guys break up then make up then act all cute and happy but in the end, you'll just be heartbroken and cry. Yes ... that cycle. Relationships end for many reasons, so just forget about trying to "work things out", it'll never ever work out.
Consult a friend if you feel lame or played. When your ex plays around with your heart when he/she knows that you still want them, that's when you definitely know that he/she is not for you. It's OK to feel this way, completely normal. Don't hold your feelings in, talk to a friend and cry. Let them comfort you and let yourself vent your feelings. You'll definitely feel better.
Shop, exercise and socialize. It'll make you feel better to buy new outfits so you can look even more attractive. Not only would it boost your confidence, it would also boost your self-esteem. Looking good would make you feel good. Exercise is also a good way to vent your frustration and pain. Look forward and keep running, running away from the pain, the problems, and the ex. Socializing with others would keep you distracted from your ex, bolster your self-esteem, and help you get over your ex. When you are occupied with other people, you'll think, "Hey! Being single isn't bad. I get to make new friends and have more time to myself". Flirt and mingle!
Do not regret any decisions, move on, it's for the better
Hang out with your friends or just find comfort in your bed. It'll help you cope.
If your ex tells you how they miss you and want to be with you, don't give in. It's all lies. They'll just end up hurting you.
Act happy and smile (even if you are not) People would approach you and socialize with you, nobody wants to talk to someone that looks emotionally unstable.
Try to DELETE every memory about your ex in your mind.
Posted by Jane at Wednesday, September 24, 2008 |