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Nov 26, 2008

Cope With False Hopes

Have you ever had false hopes? For example, let's say a friend says something like, "if you complete this task for me, I'll give you something in return" and you expected something in return, but didn't get anything. You feel cheated and used. Imagine the feeling...what do you do?

    Don't expect too much. You won't always get everything you expect, so you have to be prepared for a letdown.
    Know the people you're dealing with. If someone has let you down before, he or she is more likely to let you down again.
    Beware of NATO behavior. NATO = No Action Talk Only. Some people just talk as if things are simple, and that they will definitely help you, but when it comes to the real situation, they are the first ones to run away or make themselves unavailable. Cowards.
    Confront the person to explain how you feel. If you're a little wary of talking to the person, you can use text messages or e-mail. If they still can't get it, tell them not to make empty promises or say things like, "you are not man enough to keep promises, please don't give false hopes."
    Spread the word to others and tell them to beware of that person. If they don't appreciate it, once they experience, they will soon realize.
    Don't trust promises from a forgetful person. This is common sense.

     The steps depend on varying situations, there's no hard and fast rule here.
     Don't be too soft-hearted, and taken in by empty promises, as you will feel cheated over and over again.
     Have a backup plan and be prepared if someone who is a frequent empty promiser, promises you things that sounds too good to be true. Write it down on notebook.


Imelda said...

ouch im hit by this. i sometimes have high expectations that thngs will work out fine. thnks for this reminder.

November 27, 2008 at 3:27 AM