Bowing Out Gracefully

Bowing Out Gracefully

Ending the friendship will be difficult for both of you, but here are some tips on how to handle it with maturity and compassion.

• Come to terms with your decision. Don’t avoid the situation. If you’ve been friends for a long time, this is a conversation that needs to happen.
• Choose the right place and time. It’s best to sit down face to face, either on your friend’s home turf or in a neutral location. Set aside enough time so you each can voice your thoughts and concerns.
• Be honest. Make your reasons for ending the friendship known. Perhaps you feel neglected or abused. Either way, don’t try to hide your feelings; bring them to the forefront.
• Be clear and concise. If you know the relationship is over for good, don’t imply the possibility of renewing it.
• Be positive. In addition to focusing on your reasons for ending the friendship, share a beloved memory. Discuss the good things you’ll be taking away from the friendship.
• Be humble. Resist the temptation to focus on your friend’s faults. Be the bigger person by recognizing your own flaws and weaknesses.